ABOUT

LILA

Hi! I'm Lila Sklar

I AM: A Coach. A Teacher. A Musician. A Mother. A Wife.

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I have been playing music most of my life. I started playing the violin when I was 4 years old and never stopped. I have performed all over the world. From California to Africa. Europe, the Middle East, and Japan. I have played in dive bars, at music festivals, and at The Royal Albert Hall. In orchestras, rock bands, and in the circus.

In the midst of it all I became a wife and a mother. I also started teaching violin and voice, and I became a mental health and wellness coach. Through my trials and my travels one thing has been consistent: other people telling me what they think I can’t do.

“You can’t make a living being a musician.”

“You can’t have more than one career at the same time.”

"You can’t be a good mom and be serious about your career.”

“You can’t have a healthy, open, and honest relationship.”

“You can’t have your cake and eat it too.”

I am here to say that THIS is the biggest reason that I am a coach today.

I have now been a coach for over 10 years and am a certified coach through the ICF accredited Coach Training Alliance as well as a Master Certified Coach through Certified Life Coach Institute. In addition to my private practice, I am an active coach with Modern Health and also an approved provider at Middleway Method.

And I am here to tell you that you CAN. You CAN have your cake and eat it too. I have eaten many cakes over the years that were of my own making. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t hard sometimes. That there aren’t things that I have had to compromise on or give up in the moment. But it does mean that I have been able to follow through on the values that are most important to me. I have been able to create and enjoy a life that has all of the pieces that are meaningful, inspiring, fun, playful, fulfilling, AND put food on the table at the end of the day. In the end it is different than I imagined it when I was younger. Flexible thinking is paramount and I have adapted my vision and myself along the way to fit all the parts in.

It is better than I ever imagined it could be.

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I love...

sleeping late in the mornings ✦ hiking in the redwoods ✦ playing music ✦ Sunday morning kitchen dance parties ✦ The SF MOMA ✦ sushi ✦ Led Zeppelin ✦ Claude Dubussy ✦ Charles Mingus ✦ Lizzo ✦ my garden ✦ learning new things ✦ people’s stories ✦ brunch at night ✦ when a cat sits on me ✦ coffee ✦ red wine ✦ film noir ✦ 007 movies ✦ a good book and a cup of tea ✦ exotic stuff in my cocktail ✦ warm ocean water